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Monday 4 March 2019

Negative Comments!

Morning, how are you all my lovelies?
After telling you all I've had some relaxing weeks my weekend has turned out to be rather busy.  Friday evening I went ballroom dancing - I have been learning the waltz.  It's very odd dancing alone (hubby's adamant he won't join me) so I either dance solo, with the teacher or his wife - it really makes a difference having a partner to dance with so will have to keep badgering hubby to come too! 
Saturday night, after a day working in the garden, we had dinner with friends, a fabulous evening made easier because we all took a course of food.  My choice of pate with a selection of anti pasti for starters went down well, but I kept picking which is a big downfall for my diet!   Sunday arrived way to early after a late night, getting up to bake cakes for the baby shower I attended.  This was for my daughter-in-law and went very well.  We answered questions about mummy-to-be, guessed her waist measurement with string, tried to work out who the baby pictures were and ate lots of party food.  Home to chill after the busy weekend!  What did you all get up to?

Red has a habit of cheering me up.  It's an emotionally charged colour as it's the colour of blood and life.  It's associated with power, passion, love and confidence.  Red will lift your emotions & is a good choice for instilling confidence - something that will give you the edge when you're lacking it.
I picked this red outfit after recently receiving a negative comment - it really was a pick-me-up shade and helped big-up my ego.

Last week I received my first ever negative comment!  I have to admit I was very slightly upset by the comment, that was left on Twitter & although it was barely detrimental I felt it was unnecessary.  The person in question basically found my outfit not stylish and was not sorry about the fact.  I know that not everyone will like me or my blog content which is fine - we're all different. Everyone who blogs etc has to accept there may be negative comments, but in my mind why do people have to spread unkindness?  If you don't like something don't read or watch it - I mean I'm not making anyone read my blog/social media sites.  I'd prefer someone not to visit again rather than leave a horrible comment, likewise if you like what you see, I'd love you to leave a positive thought. X
With all this being said I would like to say a huge Thank You to Catherine - Not Dressed As Lamb  who totally had my back and answered the person in a polite but definite way before I'd finished reading.  We have a wonderful blogging community with ladies that look out for each other in a way I'd never expected and that's just another reason why I love blogging so much.  I'm proud of you all and class each & everyone of you as friends. So anyone who doesn't like me or my style can jog on - "I ain't bovverred" 😁

You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, but you can't please all the people all of the time!

You've seen this striking crimson jacket (love this one) before, & doesn't it look fabulous paired over these red jeans!  Yes these are the red jeans (these are similar) I picked up in the Zara sale!  Perfect length for me finishing on the ankle.  I often need to wear a belt with jeans - the whole hip - waist ratio for me doesn't always work, but with these I didn't need one.  Worn with my pink fishnet design Bias Cut shirt, my cable knit jumper fitting snugly over the top. All topped off by my bright, fun and cheery jacket.   

I quite like to wear my crossover bags (this is very similar) in this fashion sometimes.  I pulled the strap to nearly double which lets the bag sit high up just under my bust.  This is also a much safer way to hold your valuables close to your body when visiting somewhere new when unscrupulous persons may be lurking!  Sensible and stylish don't you think?

You've seen my pink boots often on the blog, they are so much more comfortable than I expected them to be - my 'proper 80's style' pointy toe stilettos!

Thanks goes to Esther Ruby for taking these photos - much appreciation X
Great to see you here today - please do leave a comment as I love to hear from you. X
Do let me know how you deal with negative comments.
Bye, bye for now. X



  1. I love the bright red Jacqui, the colour really suits you. Sorry to hear you've had a negative comment, there's just no need for it.

    Emma xxx

  2. Oh Jacqui. Just don't give them the time of day or the headroom! xx

  3. I've been trolled on FB but I delete the comments and block them. These people probably have awful lives and we should feel sorry for them. You look really fab in this red outfit - well done for rising above it!

  4. Kathleen McDermott4 March 2019 at 15:03

    I enjoy your every post and picture but never comment. But, I must say - That red outfit on you is STUNNING!! With your fabulous coloring, I love how you look in all the jewel tones, but this outfit - wow! (I still pine for your beautiful red summer frock.) The fitted jeans look great. You have such a nice figure and wear clothes so well. Greetings from New Jersey!

  5. How fabulous you look in your red and white outfit, Jacqui! But how sad that some people find it necessary to give negative comments! I don't understand it at all. xxx

  6. Oh boy! I really hope that it will never happen to me cause I wll be so upset. Good d thing that you didn't care to much! And yes the blogging community is very supportive!!

  7. Ignore them J ! You look gorgeous in red ! Xx

  8. Don't worry Jacqui. ❤️
    I love this red and white style. You look amazing. XO Tina

  9. Yes, because only one person can decide who is stylish and who is not. o)))) Gosh, some people really don't know what to do with their lives. I love this red look.


  10. Hi Jacqui,
    Why do some people feel the need to be negative?
    You look fabulous in these photographs - love the red!

  11. I feel for you! One of my first posts on Instagram was ridiculed by a person. Of course I blocked her (and it was just over a mini-review of lip balm). I don't need that kind of negativity nor do you! You're just lovely and today's outfit is gorgeous! I love the red and I love your pink boots and I love the way you've pulled everything together!


  12. There are people out there who just want to bring others down. Sorry you had to have that. I love your bright fun look and those white boots are so chic!

  13. just think people that are negative, leaving those comments, must have some insecurities. Just ignore! YOu look amazing in red! I love the mix of the jacket and the red jeans. and those white boots! I was glad to finally jump on that bandwagon!
    jess xx

  14. I can not imagine that some people have time to write bad things to others. Probably, these people are very unhappy with their lives, that's why they project their own negativity on other people. Jacqui, please, don't take those words personally. They are talking about themselves, not about you... Love your outfit very much!


  15. What a great outfit - you are stunning in red! I'm sorry you got a negative comment, but it's easy to see you won't let it bother you, with all the fun you had offline! :)

    Thank you so much for joining the #weekdayWearLinkUp :) Hope you're having a great weekend!

    Away From The Blue

  16. Hope you ignored them lovely and moved on. I had them before but they do seam to niggle at you if you let them. Love your look, red is my favourite colour :)

    Thanks so much for sharing your post with us at Creative Mondays last week.


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